And once again, the words come out
And once again, the tone is disrespectful.
For years, I just let it happen, never conducting an autopsy on such episodes, never digging in the dirt to find the roots of my disrespect. Although, I'm sure if someone had mentioned it to me, I could have listed excuses: I just speak my mind; someone had to tell them what for; you know it's the truth, what, you want me to lie? I'm always right, I'm never wrong; It's what everyone was thinking; This is just the way I am; It's a habit...
I am understanding more, now that we conduct autopsies of our quarrels, disagreements & arguments, that I tend to act in a disrespectful manner toward Jehu when I feel unloved. He doesn't even have to do or say anything, if I feel unloved, I treat him like he was unloving toward me. How can this be right?
It's NOT right!
Because God is our authority, disrespect is not right
Because God has a plan for me and a plan for my marriage, disrespect is not right
Because God's plan is that the husband lead, disrespect is not right
Because with God's strength, I can be respectful, disrespect is not right
Because God commands respect, disrespect is not right
Because marriage reflects my relationship with God, disrespect is not right
Because emotions are not truth, disrespect is not right
Because I am to have a renewed mind, disrepect is not right
Because nurturing a root of bitterness is wrong, disrespect is not right
Because I am a Christian & this is a Christian marriage & home, disrepect is not right
Because I have no excuse, disrespect is not right
It all goes back to my relationship with God & God isn't the one with the problem
Once I submit my "issues" to God, I can be who He desires for me to be - that includes being a respectful wife.
Ephesians 5:21 says to submit yourselves to each other & I can only answer for me
(You know I'm not talking, "doormat" or "stupid" or any other demeaning thing & you know I'm not talking about abusive relationships, either)
The key to respect
1Corinthians 10:31 "Whether therefore ye eat, or drink, or whatsoever ye do, do all to the glory of God."
Colossians 3:17 "And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him."
Colossians 3:23-24 "And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ."
Make your goal in life to glorify God and make your commitments to God before you make them to man...and your focus will stay where it needs to be...up to God and out to others. When we do so God moves forward in our lives...blessing us, enabling us and trusting us to do His will.
Suffer not thy mouth to cause thy flesh to sin Ecclesiastes 5:5-6